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Saturday, April 28, 2018

DADDY ISSUES, a lesson from Moses' childhood


blogging Exodus 2

Moses was born into the tribe of Levi, the clan that would become the hereditary priesthood of Israel; but when Moses was born, the Levites weren’t priests.  They were the minor clan descended from a disgraced ancestor (Genesis 49:5-7) among a community of slaves.  Moses and his siblings were spiritually anointed.  The eldest, Miriam, became a prophetess; Aaron, the middle child, became the first high priest of Israel; and Moses, the baby, was . . . well, Moses! 

But family life wasn’t all prayer meetings and praise services. 

First, they were all slaves.  And,  on top of that, Daddy was basically an absentee father. 

Moses’ MOTHER hid him from Pharaoh’s death squads.  Moses’ SISTER followed the basket floating down the Nile.  They arranged to keep Moses until he was weaned.   But Daddy?  Amram, Moses’ father, didn’t fight Pharaoh’s guards when they came to investigate reports of an infant birth.  He didn’t help hide the baby.  From the information in Scripture, Amram didn’t do anything.


Maybe he was emotionally disconnected.  Maybe he was worked so hard by his Egyptian overseers that he couldn’t participate in home life.  And maybe slavery broke him.  Maybe they so completely whipped away his hope that he couldn’t even find inspiration in the lives of his children. 

Does this sound familiar?



Don’t believe the lie that broken families is something new to to our times or unique to our ethnicity.

The Bible reports that enslavement and ethnic oppression are designed to breaks men.     When the spirits of the men are broken, women HAVE to step up.  Matriarchy isn’t a new  or progressive paradigm for the family.  Matriarchy is basic survival for oppressed peoples.  


Despite all of this, Miriam, Aaron, and Moses became the leaders of a movement that emancipated a nation of slaves and composed the foundational texts of the Gospel.  Moses’ story proves that the children of brokenness don’t have to become the parents of brokenness. 

To overcome the brokenness you inherited, you have to acknowledge your parents’ sins as sins.     
Exodus 6: 20 states that Moses’ father and mother were nephew and auntie.  
Now Amram took for himself Jochebed, his father’s sister, as wife; and she bore him Aaron and Moses. And the years of the life of Amram were one hundred and thirty-seven (Exodus 6:20).

Up to this point in the Old Testament, marrying such close relatives was uncommon.  Jacob and Isaac married cousins.   Abraham and Sarah were half-brother and sister. 

Yeah, I know.  Eww.

At one point, while dictating the Law to the children of Israel in the wilderness, Moses the great prophet said: 
 The nakedness of your sister, the daughter of your father, or the daughter of your mother, whether born at home or elsewhere, their nakedness you shall not uncover. . .   You shall not uncover the nakedness of your father’s sister; she is near of kin to your father. You shall not uncover the nakedness of your mother’s sister, for she is near of kin to your mother (Leviticus 18:9, 12-13).

That's a euphemistic way of saying:  God doesn’t want men  hooking up with their aunties. 

Moses looked at his family, listened to God, and said to his people:  God made my sister, and my brother, and me in His image.  He protected us, filled us with His anointing, and called us to leadership.  We are not mistakes.  But the way our parents got together, the structure of their relationship?  That wasn’t right.   The founders of our nation did great things and were mightily blessed.  But the structure of their relationship?   That was sinful. 

Good things came from it.  Great people came from it, but that doesn’t make it right.     

God freed Israel from slavery and said to them, “Now that you’re free be better than your ancestors were.”

This was a hard truth for Moses to speak.  A hard truth for me to speak.  You see, my daddy didn’t always do right, but the Lord says that my siblings and I are not mistakes.  He loves us.  He blessed us.  He brought us thus far along the way, but He does  want us perpetuate the same dysfunction in which our forefathers lived.

It’s a difficult thing:  to confess that you, your family, or maybe even your entire nation was conceived in sin and shaped in iniquity. 

Difficult but necessary. 

Moses’ story shows us that generational greatness requires us to learn our my fathers’ sins, not repeat our fathers’ sins.  We need to stop encouraging our children in lifestyles that political pharaoh and spiritual pharaoh designed to break our people. 

We celebrate survivors.  We honor the  strength of our sisters who did what had to be done when their man wouldn’t.  We glory in the beauty and potential of our children, regardless how they became our children.  And we teach our children the truth so they and all our descendants can walk into their best lives because of the kinds of families they built not despite the kinds of families they built.    


--Anderson T. Graves II   is a writer, community organizer and consultant for education, ministry, and rural leadership development.

Rev. Anderson T. Graves II is pastor of Miles Chapel CME Church in Fairfield, Alabama. He writes a blog called A Word to the Wise at www.andersontgraves.blogspot.com

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