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Monday, March 9, 2020

HOPE FOR WEARY SERVANTS (audio)


From Romans 15: 1-13 the title of the message is:  HOPE FOR WEARY SERVANTS.


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---Anderson T. Graves II   is a pastor, writer, community organizer, and consultant  

Rev. Anderson T. Graves II is pastor of Bailey Tabernacle CME Church in Tuscaloosa, Alabama. He writes the popular blog: A Word to the Wise at www.andersontgraves.blogspot.com

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Monday, September 11, 2017

SHOW & TELL

The message is titled: SHOW & TELL.

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---Anderson T. Graves II   is a writer, community organizer and consultant for education, ministry, and rural leadership development.

Rev. Anderson T. Graves II is pastor of Miles Chapel CME Church in Fairfield, Alabama;  executive director of the Substance Abuse Youth Networking Organization (SAYNO);  and director of rural leadership development for the National Institute for Human Development (NIHD).

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Friday, December 12, 2014

GIFTS AND BOOTSTRAPS


“What do you have that is not a gift?”---Bishop Lawrence Reddick, Christian Methodist Episcopal Church

When Sheila and I started out we were broke.  I worked nights at a convenience store.  She closed at Taco Bell.   The weekend we got married my boss fired me while I was in Mississippi getting married.  We had one car between us, and I totaled it the week before we got married. So we were broke, I was unemployed, and we had no car. 

Now we are a pretty firmly middle class American family.

I don’t steal and I don’t panhandle.  What I have was bought with what I earned.  But, what I’ve earned was only possible because of what I have been given.


  • Government Pell Grants and student loans made it possible to finish my degrees.
  • Tax revenue funding the public school system made it possible for me to have a career in education.
  • Discrimination lawsuits forced Alabama to pay me and other teachers 100% of the approved salary matrix.
  • The giant teacher union I joined, run by Paul Hubbert, fought for me to get a raise every 2 to 3 years, sometimes 2 years in a row.
  • That same union protected my pension plan every time corporations and legislators wanted to raid it, defund it, or turn it into something like the 401(k)’s and modified plans that lost all their money a few years ago.
  • Heavily subsidized health insurance kept my family out of debt for the many medical emergencies we’ve had.
  • And on and on and on. 

These are the bootstraps by which my wife and I pulled ourselves into the middle class. 

But the straps were not attached to our own hard-working feet.  We rose from broke, unemployed, and barely employed to the American middle class because we were strapped to and lifted by people and institutions and policies designed to help those lower down not just cater to those higher up.




I donate what I can but I don’t have the money to pay for every other family’s needs.  What I do have in generous portions is a voice that I can use to advocate for actions that meet the needs of many more families struggling like Sheila and I were.

Considering all that I have been given, how dare I not give back such as I have?  How dare I forget what it’s like to be the one who needs help? How dare I pretend that I have gained anything by just pulling on my own bootstraps?

“What do you have that is not a gift?” 

If you’re honest, nothing. 

Remember that.

For everyone to whom much is given, from him much will be required; and to whom much has been committed, of him they will ask the more. --- Jesus, Luke 12: 48


---Anderson T. Graves II   is a writer, community organizer and consultant for education, ministry, and rural leadership development.

Rev. Anderson T. Graves II is pastor of Miles Chapel CME Church in Fairfield, Alabama;  executive director of the Substance Abuse Youth Networking Organization (SAYNO);  and director of rural leadership development for the National Institute for Human Development (NIHD).

Subscribe to my personal blog  www.andersontgraves.blogspot.com .

Email atgravestwo2@aol.com

You can help support this ministry with a donation to Miles Chapel CME Church.

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Fairfield, Al 35064

Wednesday, August 13, 2014

HELPING PEOPLE IS SO UNFAIR


As of yesterday, the Ebola virus outbreak in northern Africa had claimed over a thousand lives.  Two of the thousands infected were American health workers who were in Africa to help.  When they got sick they were flown back to the United States and treated at Emory Univesity Hospital in coordination with the Center for Disease Control (CDC) laboratories in Atlanta.  The experimental drugs used on those 2 Americans worked!  They got better.

That’s great news, except----the international community led the World Health Organization (WHO) has been telling Africans that going to a health care center in their home country will help them fight Ebola. Now the Africans see that the Americans didn’t stay at the health care center in Africa.  They left and got better.   

Africans are being told that they are receiving the best possible care for an incurable virus.  But, it sure sounds like the Americans got better care and a cure.  It’s not fair.

I don’t believe that there is a conspiracy.  I don’t think this is racism or elitism.  I think that it’s the constant dilemma for every full-time do-gooder like the World Health Organization (WHO), hospital, non-profits, ministries, and me.

Depending on how you look at it, doing good can look really bad.

The WHO doesn’t have enough of those experimental drugs to give to all the affected people in north Africa.  So, now they have to choose who gets the most promising treatment.  They could protect the health care workers who are there to help and deserve to be protected.  But what’ll it look like when the foreigners stay healthy while Africans get sicker and die?

Oh, and the drugs haven’t been fully tested.  Nobody knows it the treatments will work without side effect or if the drugs will kill every third person. 

What if it causes sterility or horrible birth defects?  What if it doesn’t work in the north African climate?  Will the people of Africa believe that it was an honest mistake, or will they decide that it’s another in the long line of real Western conspiracies to destroy and destabilize African nations?

The WHO and every other person and organization that’s out there doing good in the world must decide whether the help they can give right now will do more good or more harm.    But even when you use your very best judgment---- how do you predict how people will perceive your decision?

As for the last question, the answer is:  You can’t.

Depending on how you look at it, doing good can look really bad.

In John 11, Jesus raised his friend Lazarus from the dead.  Jesus performed that miracle in a graveyard full of other people’s dead friends, brothers, and loved ones.  Yet, Jesus only resurrected Lazarus.

Don’t you think some other grieving person thought that was unfair?

In Mark 5: 24-34, a huge crowd surrounded Jesus including all kinds of sick people .  One lady was instantly cured by touching the hem of Jesus’ garment. 

And Jesus, immediately knowing in Himself that power had gone out of Him, turned around in the crowd and said, “Who touched My clothes?”
But His disciples said to Him, “You see the multitude thronging You, and You say, ‘Who touched Me?’ ” (Mark 5: 30-31

The disciples knew that a bunch of people were touching Jesus and His clothes.  But, only one of them got healed.

How unfair does that look?

Why her?  Why not me or my sick friend?

Our human resources are limited.  No matter how altruistic our hearts, we have to make difficult but firm decision about whom and how to help, which means deciding whom and how NOT to help. 

And no matter what you decide, no matter how wisely you judge, no matter how lovingly and unprejudicially you select--- you’re going to hurt somebody, and you’re going to piss somebody off.
Jesus spoke to that when He referenced the Old Testament outreach of the prophets Elijah an Elisha.

But I tell you truly, many widows were in Israel in the days of Elijah, when the heaven was shut up three years and six months, and there was a great famine throughout all the land; but to none of them was Elijah sent except to Zarephath, in the region of Sidon, to a woman who was a widow.
And many lepers were in Israel in the time of Elisha the prophet, and none of them was cleansed except Naaman the Syrian.” (Luke 4: 25-27)

And Jesus audience (in church) responded like people respond today.
So all those in the synagogue, when they heard these things, were filled with wrath and rose up and thrust Him out of the city; and they led Him to the brow of the hill on which their city was built, that they might throw Him down over the cliff.  (Luke 4: 27, 28)

(Oh, and isn’t it interesting that one of the statements that made the worshippers mad enough to throw Jesus off a cliff was the story of a prophet going way over yonder to help a foreigner and single mother “while there are all these needs right here at home.”)

You won’t help everybody.  You CAN’T help everybody. 

That’s a fact, but not an excuse.

Jesus never said, “It isn’t time to heal every sickness so I’m not going heal any.”

If a brother or sister is naked and destitute of daily food, and one of you says to them, “Depart in peace, be warmed and filled,” but you do not give them the things which are needed for the body, what does it profit?  Thus also faith by itself, if it does not have works, is dead. (James 2: 15-17)

Help everybody you can.

But, you can’t help everybody.  And, you won’t please everybody.

Don’t kill yourself inside over the limitations of your resources.  Increase your capacity as you can, but accept that no matter how much good you intend, no matter how much good you actually do---- it’ll look bad to somebody.

Do good anyway.

---Anderson T. Graves II   is a writer, community organizer and consultant for education, ministry, and rural leadership development.

Rev. Anderson T. Graves II is pastor of Miles Chapel CME Church (5220 Myron Massey Boulevard) in Fairfield, Alabama;  executive director of the Substance Abuse Youth Networking Organization (SAYNO);  and director of rural leadership development for the National Institute for Human Development (NIHD).

Email atgravestwo2@aol.com

You can help support this ministry with a donation to Miles Chapel CME Church.

Support by check or money order may be mailed to  
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Fairfield, Al 35064

Friday, May 16, 2014

THE PLAN & THE COMPLAINT


 2 Kings chapter 5.

Naaman's life was all good, except for this one thing:  Naaman was a leper.  He had a chronic, incurable skin disease that was going to destroy his body and kill him.  But other than that, everything was fine.

Naaman heard that he could get help at church, so he went to visit the Reverend Pastor Prophet Elisha in Israel.  He even brought something for the offering--- this one time.

But Elisha didn’t even give Naaman a chance to sit in his office and tell his story.  Instead Elisha referred Naaman to the Jordan River with instructions to go through 7 cycles of full body wash-rinse-and-repeat.

Naaman was NOT happy. 

He stormed out of the church lobby.  His tires left a pair of black streaks in the church parking lot as he burned rubber in disgust.  He went off to his boys in the back seats of the Tahoe.

Scripture says it this way: But Naaman became furious, and went away and said, “Indeed, I said to myself, ‘He will surely come out to me, and stand and call on the name of the Lord his God, and wave his hand over the place, and heal the leprosy.’ “ and on and on he went. (2 Kings 5: 11)

So he turned and went away in a rage. (2 Kings 5: 12)

One of Naaman’s boys, a guy who worked for him, leaned over from the passenger seat, …spoke to him, and said, “My father, if the prophet had told you to do something great, would you not have done it? How much more then, when he says to you, ‘Wash, and be clean’?” (2 Kings 5: 13)

Naaman calmed down and he went down and dipped seven times in the Jordan, according to the saying of the man of God; and his flesh was restored like the flesh of a little child, and he was clean. (2 Kings 5: 14)

He was cured.

Did the waters cure Naaman?  No.

God cured Naaman.

But God only delivered the cure when Naaman obeyed the plan.

We come to God (or to church) for help, for a cure for what ails us?  And when things go the way they’re supposed to we get an answer from the Lord.  Sometimes God speaks to us through the primary pastor, reverend, preacher, prophet, apostle, or bishop of the church.  Sometimes, the answer comes some other way.

But the answer isn’t always, “Here.  Here, let ME immediately fix your problem for you.”
Sometimes the answer is, “Here.  Here is the plan  for YOU to follow to correct the problem for (or in) yourself.”

And that’s when we storm away and kick rocks on our way out of the parking lot.

“That ole sorry, preacher!”

“They supposed to be so Christian, but they can’t help nobody!”

“Who do they think they are, telling me what to do?” 

“I knew I shouldn’t ‘ve even come here.  I shoulda gone down the street.”

“Are not the Abanah and the Pharpar, the rivers of Damascus, better than all the waters of Israel? Could I not wash in them and be clean?”(2 Kings 5: 12)

Why did Naaman have to go through all of that running around and spend all that time washing and whatever?

I don’t know why, but that WAS the plan God gave him.

He could obey God’s plan and get better, or he could complain about God’s plan and get sicker.

What plan did God give you when you showed up looking for help?

How you comin’ with that?

Too much trouble?

Takes too long?

You got better things to do?

O.K.  Well, you can either obey God’s plan and get better.

Or you can complain about God’s plan and get sicker.

You can whine about  the church or the pastor could have done; but if God didn’t tell them to waive their hands over the place/ relationship/ illness/ bill and call on the Lord then no amount of “decreeing and declaring” is going to make it better.  Just because they didn't please you doesn't mean they didn't obey God.

If you went to them for help from the Lord, maybe that's what you got----- even if it wasn't the way you wanted to get it.  The church did it's part.  Now, you have a choice:

Obey God’s plan and get better, 
or complain about God’s plan and get sicker.


---Anderson T. Graves II   is a writer, community organizer and consultant for education, ministry, and rural leadership development.

Rev. Anderson T. Graves II is pastor of Hall Memorial CME Church in Montgomery, Alabama, executive director of the Substance Abuse Youth Networking Organization (SAYNO) and director of rural leadership development for the National Institute for Human Development (NIHD).

Email atgravestwo2@aol.com
To listen to sermons and learn more about the ministry at Hall Memorial CME Church, visit www.hallmemorialcme.blogspot.com .

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Thursday, March 6, 2014

DANG! THAT'S SO RATCHET.

Some of the situations I deal with every day are ratchet.  They are.   They just ARE. 

Ratchet is a urban slang term derived from the older, more formal English word wretched, and meaning exactly the same thing:  bad, pitiful, deprived, depraved, miserable, etc., etc.

Does that mean that the circumstances are ratchet or that the people in the circumstances are ratchet?  My days are a mix of both.

I deal with some the most noble, generous, hard-working people I’ve ever met---- some of whom are homeless.  I also encounter some of the most selfish, profane, predatory, and arrogant people I’ve ever seen----- some of whom are in junior high school (and I don’t mean teachers).

When you walk into wretched, it’s there.  Whatever your political leanings, no matter what your position on the relevant social issue, the situation is what the situation is.  The choice of adjectives doesn’t alter reality.

Jesus said: For the poor you will have with you always; but Me you do not have always. (Matthew 26: 11; John 12: 8)

We usually stop quoting and thinking after the poor you will have with you always. At which point we throw up our hands in holy resignation and declare, “It is what it is.  Let’s go home.”   
Hold on there, Speedy.  Cross-reference and also read Mark 14: 7.

Jesus’ full statement was: For you have the poor with you always, and whenever you wish you may do them good; but Me you do not have always.  

It is what it is; but whenever you want to, you can do something about it.

You can either say, “Dang, this is so ratchet.  Somebody should do something,” and then pick up your bag and leave.
Or, you can say, “Dang! This is so ratchet.  I’m going to do something to help,” and open up your bag and get to work.

Especially if you claim to be a Christian, if you choose the first option----- that’s wretched.  That’s you being spiritually ratchet.

Because you say, ‘I am rich, have become wealthy, and have need of nothing’—and do not know that you are wretched, miserable, poor, blind, and naked (Revelations 3: 17)

I know how bad it is where I go.  I’m fully aware that many of those I want to see healed are suffering from self-inflicted wounds.  I’m conscious of the fact that I’m diving into an ocean of generational curses trying to save one drowning family at a time.  I see the hundreds of years of history and billions of dollars in economic interests with vested interest in the continued exploitation of people I’m trying to empower.

It’s wretched.  I know.

So I do what I do every day.  I pray and then I open up my bag and get to work.  That’s what Jesus told me to do for them.  That’s what Jesus did for my wretched/ ratchet soul.

---Anderson T. Graves II   is a writer, community organizer and consultant for education, ministry, and rural leadership development.
Rev. Anderson T. Graves II is pastor of Hall Memorial CME Church in Montgomery, Alabama, executive director of the Substance Abuse Youth Networking Organization (SAYNO) and director of rural leadership development for the National Institute for Human Development (NIHD).
Email atgravestwo2@aol.com
To hear sermons, read devotions, and learn more about the ministry at Hall Memorial CME Church, visit www.hallmemorialcme.blogspot.com .
You can read more on Pastor Graves's personal blog at www.andersontgraves.blogspot.com  .

If this message helps or touches you, please help support this ministry. Send a donation of any amount by check or money order.
Mail all contributions to :
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Wednesday, November 13, 2013

A Whisper and a Nudge

Sometimes it’s what people say that makes you stop and listen more closely.  Sometimes it’s how they say it. 

The same thing is true about God.

1 Samuel 9: 15     Now the Lord had told Samuel in his ear the day before Saul came, saying, 16     “Tomorrow about this time I will send you a man from the land of Benjamin, and you shall anoint him commander over My people Israel, that he may save My people from the hand of the Philistines; for I have looked upon My people, because their cry has come to Me.”

17     So when Samuel saw Saul, the Lord said to him, “There he is, the man of whom I spoke to you. This one shall reign over My people.” (New King James Version)

It was the wording of verse 15 that made stop and re-read this morning.  …the Lord had told Samuel in his ear…    Of course not every translation uses this exact phrasing.  You could say simply that the Lord told, said, or revealed to; but the word in the original language means to uncover the ear.

So the right image to have in your mind is of God leaning down, cupping His hand around Samuel’s ear, and whispering, “Don’t worry, Sammy.  In about twenty-four hours, I’m going to send you guys some help.”

And then.  The next day as Saul (who doesn’t know about any of this) is wandering past, God nudges Samuel in the ribs and whispers, “Pssst.  Sammmy, that’s  him.  That’s the guy I was telling you about yesterday.  That’s the one who’s going to help you.”

Now, imagine God leaning down, cupping His hand around your ear, and whispering to you in a still, small, voice.   Imagine the Lord standing by you, gently nudging you as your blessing passes by,  even when the bearer of the blessing doesn’t know why they’re there.   We know Biblically that God does that, but are you sensitized to God’s whispering voice in your ear?    

Sure, you can hear a prophetic word when it’s declared from a pulpit.  Of course you notice great healing and miraculous provision.   Thunder and lightning, tongues, and dreams, and all spectacular forms of revelation:  you know about those. 

But what about the soft whispers?  What about the gentle nudges?

How many blessings have you missed because you weren’t used to the quiet voice of the Holy Spirit?  How many more blessings will walk right past you because you shrug off God’s little nudge in your side?
Learn to hear Him in the quiet times when you’re not even asking for anything in particular.  Learn to feel His touch when you’re not begging for a healing hand.  Over time you’ll be able to hear His whisper even when everyone else around you is screaming.  And then, you won’t have to miss any more blessings.

---Anderson T. Graves II   is a writer, community organizer and consultant for education, ministry, and rural leadership development.

Rev. Anderson T. Graves II is pastor of Hall Memorial CME Church in Montgomery, Alabama, executive director of the Substance Abuse Youth Networking Organization (SAYNO) and director of rural leadership development for the National Institute for Human Development (NIHD).


To hear sermons, read devotions, and learn more about the ministry at Hall Memorial CME Church, visit www.hallmemorialcme.blogspot.com .

You can read more on Pastor Graves's personal blog at www.andersontgraves.blogspot.com  .

If this message helps or touches you, please help support this ministry. Send a donation of any amount by check or money order.
Mail all contributions to :
Hall Memorial CME Church
541 Seibles Road
Montgomery, AL 36116

Tuesday, April 30, 2013

MENTEE vs. PROTEGE. What's in a name?

I mentor a number of people, male and female, young and old.  But, on Facebook I was talking specifically about 2 junior high school boys whom I officially mentor.  I said that I prefer to call them my PROTEGES rather than my “mentees.”

The question that followed was, “What’s the difference between a protégé and a mentee?”

The answer:  None and much.

Linguistically, the terms are synonymous.  It’s really just a matter of personal preference in which you use.

But I call my guys PROTEGES is because I look at it a bit deeper.

The word mentee is a derivation of MENTOR.  The mentee is the object of the mentor.  It implies that the human mentee is simply an extension of his/her mentor.  And even when we talk about mentees, we usually think of them as people who are desperate or in need of help, someone who is “at risk.”

On the other hand, the word protégé is not derived from mentor.  Protégé is independent.  Their relationship is mutual.  When I think of a protégé, I think of someone who is destined to follow in the footsteps of greatness, and then to excel beyond the works of his/her mentor.

The connotation of a mentee is someone characterized by his/her past deprivation.   The connotation of a protégé is someone characterized by his/her future greatness.

I could be overthinking the concept.  (I’ve been known to do that.)  It doesn’t REALLY matter with term you use.  But, if you’re a mentor it does matter that you remember your role.

As a mentor, your job is not to create more little YOUs.   Your job is bring out great THEMs.

---Anderson T. Graves II   is a writer, community organizer and consultant for education, ministry, and rural leadership development.

Rev. Anderson T. Graves II is pastor of Hall Memorial CME Church in Montgomery, Alabama.

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