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Thursday, August 23, 2018

LET US MAKE MEN

A message for all of us and for all of us men.  The title is LET US MAKE MEN


Listen well and leave a comment.

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 --Anderson T. Graves II   is a writer, community organizer and consultant for education, ministry, and rural leadership development.

Rev. Anderson T. Graves II is pastor of Bailey Tabernacle CME Church in Tuscaloosa, Alabama. He writes the popular blog: A Word to the Wise at www.andersontgraves.blogspot.com

Follow me on twitter @AndersonTGraves 

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Monday, December 18, 2017

RACHELS DYING

blogging Genesis 35

1 Then God said to Jacob, “Arise, go up to Bethel and dwell there; and make an altar there to God, who appeared to you when you fled from the face of Esau your brother.”  
. . . So Jacob came to Luz (that is, Bethel), which is in the land of Canaan, he and all the people who were with him.
. . . Now Deborah, Rebekah’s nurse, died, and she was buried below Bethel under the terebinth tree. So the name of it was called Allon Bachuth.
. . . 16 Then they journeyed from Bethel.
And when there was but a little distance to go to Ephrath, Rachel labored in childbirth, and she had hard labor. 17 Now it came to pass, when she was in hard labor, that the midwife said to her, “Do not fear; you will have this son also.” 18 And so it was, as her soul was departing (for she died), that she called his name Ben-Oni; but his father called him Benjamin. 19 So Rachel died and was buried on the way to Ephrath (that is, Bethlehem). 20 And Jacob set a pillar on her grave, which is the pillar of Rachel’s grave to this day. (Genesis 35: 1-20)



Bethel was where Jacob first had a personal encounter with God.  Bethel was the twice anointed “house of God,” the holy city of Jacob’s generation.  The Lord told Jacob to stay, dwell, abide, live (depending on the translation) there.  The covenant family was to root their community at the geographical focal point of God’s revealed presence.

But Jacob didn’t want to do that. 

Sometimes when I’m preaching I see a congregant weeping on a back row, the look of conviction and God’s invading grace written all over their face.  Sometimes they get up and come to the altar, but being confronted by God always forces you to confront yourself and sometimes that’s too much so they get up and leave early.

Maybe living at Bethel was too much like living in a moment of worship.  Maybe the constant reminder of God’s promises to him and his promises to God so convicted Jacob that he either had to come to the altar or leave early.   Jacob chose to leave early.  Early because Rachel, the love of his life, was pregnant, but Jacob put her on the road anyway.   Jacob made his personal agenda more important than his wife’s health and that’s when the story took a tragic turn.

Rachel had a long history of gynecological problems.  Genesis 29:31 says she’d been diagnosed with infertility, i.e. “Rachel was barren.”   She’d conceived only after lobbying her sister for access to a rare mandrake-based treatment (Genesis 30:14-24).   Years later she’d finally conceived again.  Remember Jacob loved Rachel dearly.  He wouldn’t have hurt her intentionally. He’d figured that they would reach Ephrath before the baby was due.  But before they left Bethel, Deborah died (Genesis 35:8). 

Deborah had been nurse to Rebekah, Jacob's mother. At some point, probably at Rebekah's request, she came to serve Jacob, or more specifically, Jacob's wives.  Nurses were trained midwives and experts in female health issues. With 3 generations of experience, Nurse Deborah was the Old Testament equivalent of senior physician in the women's health center.  

So, Rachel was traveling in the advanced trimester of a high-risk pregnancy and she’d just lost her primary women’s healthcare provider. 

And when there was but a little distance to go to Ephrath, Rachel labored in childbirth, and she had hard labor (Genesis 35: 16).

Either the caravan was late, or, more likely, the baby was early.  Rachel’s labor was distressed.  The midwife filling in for Deborah no doubt did her best.  She managed to save the premature baby, but “Rachel died and was buried on the way to Ephrath (that is, Bethlehem)” (Genesis 35:19).

In the movies, when a woman dies in childbirth she says something brave and inspiring before she passes away.  The Bible does not script inspiring scenes but it reports the often unpleasant truth from the lives of our spiritual ancestors.   

“And so it was, as her soul was departing (for she died), that she called his name Ben-Oni; but his father called him Benjamin”(Genesis 35:18).

Rachel’s last words as she looked at the son she would not get to raise were “He is Ben-Oni” which translates into “He is the ‘son of my sorrow’ .”   Jacob changed the motherless boy’s name to Benjamin meaning “son of my right hand.”  It seems kind to save the child from such a sad name, but maybe it wasn't kindness but guilt.


Maybe Jacob didn't want the sound of his son's name to remind him that his decisions, his priorities, his POLICIES had killed the woman he loved.

Would Rachel have gone into premature labor if they’d stayed in Bethel where she could’ve stayed on bed rest instead of bouncing on the back of a donkey, or a camel, or the bed of an ancient cart? We can't know.  

Would Rachel have survived the birth if she’d had access to the senior midwife in Bethel instead of  Deborah’s trainees traveling with them?  We can't know.

We can’t know if the best Bronze Age medical care in Bethel was good enough to save Rachel from being a mortality in childbirth statistic. But, we do know that there were better healthcare options than going into labor on the side of the road.  We do know that the man Jacob made decisions that separated the woman Rachel from her best healthcare options. 


We know that God, in His infinite, precognitive wisdom wanted Rachel to have access to the better healthcare options. We know because God told Jacob to STAY in Bethel which would have kept Rachel and her high-risk pregnancy off the road to Bethlehem.  

Rachel died as too many women since have died when their best healthcare options were rendered unattainable by the decisions of men whose agendas weren’t really about keeping women healthy.   Jacob meant no harm to Rachel.  He loved her, but his plans in Ephrath were more important than her medical history and prenatal needs. 



We live in a nation that has cured male pattern baldness and erectile dysfunction.  We’ve figured out how to save and redeploy a soldier blown up on a battlefield two countries away from a decent hospital.  But 3,000-plus years after Rachel, women in the greatest nation in the world still die from having a baby. 

We don’t know a lot of things, but, if we believe the witness of Genesis we do know that God wants better care for His daughters than His sons have been providing the last few thousand years.  

So, brothers, instead of running ahead and forcing women’s health needs to submit to our priorities
we should hold up where we are.  We should stay, dwell, abide, live in this moment of conviction for our failings.  We should own, confess, and repent of our medical sins against women.  We should listen to what women who know women have to say about how to take care of women.  Instead of men setting women’s health on our path, we should take care of them the way God wants --- with the best resources this blessed place can produce.
  
---Anderson T. Graves II   is a writer, community organizer and consultant for education, ministry, and rural leadership development.

Rev. Anderson T. Graves II is pastor of Miles Chapel CME Church in Fairfield, Alabama. He writes a blog called A Word to the Wise at www.andersontgraves.blogspot.com

Email atgravestwo2@aol.com
Follow me on twitter @AndersonTGraves 

Click here to support this ministry with a donation.  Or go to andersontgraves.blogspot.com and click on the DONATE button on the right-hand sidebar.

Support by check or money order may be mailed to 
Miles Chapel CME Church
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Fairfield, Al 35064



Monday, August 10, 2015

GOD, FATHER, GODFATHER



“The Godfather” movie trilogy tells the story of several generations of the fictional Corleone family.  The  central characters, father and son Vito and Michael Corleone lead a Sicilian mafia family.  They lie.  They steal.  They murder.  They deal in corrupt politics.  In the movies, they are (reluctantly) responsible for the explosion of the illegal drug trade in Black neighborhoods.   They are the bad guys, but I like them. 

There’s a scene in the first movie, where Don Corleone, Vito played by Marlon Brando, is in a garden sharing life lessons with his son and successor Michael, played by Al Pacino.  It’s a tender scene of a father in the days of waning strength anxiously trying to pass every ounce of his wisdom to the son who must carry the family legacy.   It’s the kind of scene that every man wishes he had shared with his dad and can share with his son.

Only father and son in this scene are tenderly reviewing instructions for a series of assassinations.

I realized that I like the Corleones becuase they remind me of another family.  Thousands of years before the Godfather story was invented, before there was a mafia, before there were Sicilians, ancient records preserved a similarly terrible and tender scene between a dangerous man and his powerful son.   Their names were David and Solomon.


Now the days of David drew near that he should die, and he charged Solomon his son, saying: “I go the way of all the earth; be strong, therefore, and prove yourself a man. (1 Kings 2: 1, 2)

David reminded his son of the promises of God and of the godly legacy their family was covenant-bound to uphold.  He said, “Keep the charge of the Lord your God: to walk in His ways, to keep His statutes, His commandments, His judgments, and His testimonies, as it is written in the Law of Moses. ” Then he went over all the people that he wanted his son to have killed. (1 Kings 2: 3-8)

One of Solomon’s targets was named Joab.  Joab was David’s friend and most trusted general until he violated David’s orders and killed the king’s rebellious son Absalom. To prevent another civil war in Israel, David guaranteed Joab’s safety as long as he lived. 

David forgave, but he never forgot.

“Therefore do according to your wisdom, and do not let his gray hair go down to the grave in peace.” (1 Kings 2: 6)

Solomon dispatched his favorite assassin Benaniah to execute the hits. 

By the end of chapter 2, all of David’s old enemies and all of Solomon’s personal rivals are “dealt with.”

One of those rivals was Adonijah, Solomon’s older brother.   


To secure his kingdom, Solomon had his older brother killed. 

Then King Solomon swore by the Lord, saying, “May God do so to me, and more also, if Adonijah has not spoken this word against his own life! (1 Kings 2: 23)

We see the Corleones for what they are: bad men trying to be good men while doing bad things with a bit of religion on the side.  In other words, sinners without the Savior.  The fictional Corleone family of Sicily and the historical Bar-Jesse lineage of Bethlehem: they’re the same. 

Here’s why.  The Corleones and the descendants of Jesse  had moral codes.  They participate in and extravagantly contributed to religion. They did the same things and they were MISSING the same thing.  None of them had a personal relationship with the Savior and the accompanying indwelling of the Holy Spirit.

Without the Holy Ghost, we are all bad men trying to be good men while doing bad things with a little religion on the side.  The lesson of the gangster families is that without the Holy Ghost we will fail our families.  And our churches.  And our communities.


Therefore the Lord said to Solomon, “Because you have done this, and have not kept My covenant and My statutes, which I have commanded you, I will surely tear the kingdom away from you and give it to your servant (1 Kings 11: 11)

The power to protect our families and to project a prosperous and legitimate legacy doesn’t come from money, station, personal loyalties, or violence.  It comes from a real relationship with God Father, Son, and Holy Spirit.  That is God’s promise.

The Lord has sworn in truth to David;He will not turn from it: “I will set upon your throne the fruit 
of your body.If your sons will keep My covenant and My testimony which I shall teach them, their
sons also shall sit upon your throne forevermore.”(Ps 132:11-12)
It’s an offer you can’t afford to refuse.

---Anderson T. Graves II   is a writer, community organizer and consultant for education, ministry, and rural leadership development.

Rev. Anderson T. Graves II is pastor of Miles Chapel CME Church in Fairfield, Alabama;  executive director of the Substance Abuse Youth Networking Organization (SAYNO);  and director of rural leadership development for the National Institute for Human Development (NIHD).

Subscribe to my personal blog  www.andersontgraves.blogspot.com .

Email atgravestwo2@aol.com
Follow me on twitter @AndersonTGraves 
#Awordtothewise

You can help support this ministry with a donation to Miles Chapel CME Church.

You can help support Rev. Graves’ work by visiting his personal blog and clicking the DONATE button on the right-hand sidebar.

Support by check or money order may be mailed to 
Miles Chapel CME Church
P O Box 132
Fairfield, Al 35064

Saturday, April 25, 2015

OUR PROBLEMS, HIS POWER, THE PLAN or LESSONS FROM ISRAEL’S HOOD

The man God named Israel had 12 sons, at least 1 daughter, 3 wives, and 2 baby’s mamas-- give or take.  The Biblical account of the family that became the Jewish nation is not a pretty story; but it is a profoundly and relevantly human story.  In this in-depth message for a Men-to-Men ministry workshop, Pastor Graves provides a contemporary profile of the community that became a nation.

You’ll never forget the children of Israel, and you’ll never think about “the hood” the same .

The title of the message is: OUR PROBLEMS, HIS POWER, THE PLAN or LESSONS FROM ISRAEL’S HOOD.


Listen well.


If you can’t get the audio on your device, visit the main podcast page at http://revandersongraves.podomatic.com/

---Anderson T. Graves II   is a writer, community organizer and consultant for education, ministry, and rural leadership development.

Rev. Anderson T. Graves II is pastor of Miles Chapel CME Church in Fairfield, Alabama;  executive director of the Substance Abuse Youth Networking Organization (SAYNO);  and director of rural leadership development for the National Institute for Human Development (NIHD).

Subscribe to my personal blog  www.andersontgraves.blogspot.com .

Email atgravestwo2@aol.com
Follow me on twitter @AndersonTGraves  #Awordtothewise 

You can help support this ministry with a donation to Miles Chapel CME Church.

You can help support Rev. Graves’ work by visiting his personal blog and clicking the DONATE button on the right-hand sidebar.

Support by check or money order may be mailed to 
Miles Chapel CME Church
P O Box 132

Fairfield, Al 35064

Sunday, April 19, 2015

MEN & WOMEN MOVING ON FAITH IN CHANGING TIMES

My, how times have changed.  In the days of the Judges in ancient Israel God’s people found themselves oppressed by enemies they should have defeated long before.  Men and women debated their roles as leaders in the time of crisis.  The people of God were under pressure to compromise with the culture.  The worship of God based on His written Word was in peril.

Well maybe times haven’t changed that much.

Find out how men and women of faith overcame insurmountable odds in the time of Judges and how their victory shows the path for ours.  The message is about MEN & WOMEN MOVING ON FAITH IN CHANGING TIMES.


Listen well.

If you can’t get the audio on your device, visit the main podcast page at http://revandersongraves.podomatic.com/

---Anderson T. Graves II   is a writer, community organizer and consultant for education, ministry, and rural leadership development.

Rev. Anderson T. Graves II is pastor of Miles Chapel CME Church in Fairfield, Alabama;  executive director of the Substance Abuse Youth Networking Organization (SAYNO);  and director of rural leadership development for the National Institute for Human Development (NIHD).

Subscribe to my personal blog  www.andersontgraves.blogspot.com .

Email atgravestwo2@aol.com
Follow me on twitter @AndersonTGraves  #Awordtothewise 

You can help support this ministry with a donation to Miles Chapel CME Church.

You can help support Rev. Graves’ work by visiting his personal blog and clicking the DONATE button on the right-hand sidebar.

Support by check or money order may be mailed to 
Miles Chapel CME Church
P O Box 132

Fairfield, Al 35064

Wednesday, January 28, 2015

WALKING WITH DADDY


The other day for some reason my wife decided to teach our 12 year old son how to walk cool.  For some reason my 16 year old daughter decided to help.

They marched Anderson back and forth through the den. 
“Pull your shoulders back.”
“No don’t lean so much.”
“Keep your feet apart.”
“No.”
“Not like that.”
“Oh, my gosh, boy! Walk like a man!”

I was at the kitchen counter with my laptop not saying a word.  After several stressful and HILARIOUS minutes, I pushed the barstool back, motioned for Anderson to come to me, and put my arm around his shoulder.

Then we silently walked across the room together.

My wife looked at Anderson and said, “You walk fine when you’re walking with Daddy.”

When he’s walking with Daddy he walks just fine.  He walks like a man.

There’s a certain way that a man is supposed to physically, financially, emotionally, and spiritually walk through life.  A houseful of women can sometime with much effort, frustration, error, and failure ultimately teach a boy how to walk through life like a man; but the best, most effectively way is for him to just walk with Daddy.

When I was my father’s son, tender and the only one in the sight of my mother, my father taught me, and said to me, “Let your heart retain my words. Keep my commands, and live.” (Proverbs 4: 3-4) 

---Anderson T. Graves II   is a writer, community organizer and consultant for education, ministry, and rural leadership development.

Rev. Anderson T. Graves II is pastor of Miles Chapel CME Church in Fairfield, Alabama;  executive director of the Substance Abuse Youth Networking Organization (SAYNO);  and director of rural leadership development for the National Institute for Human Development (NIHD).

Subscribe to my personal blog  www.andersontgraves.blogspot.com .

Email atgravestwo2@aol.com
Follow me on twitter @AndersonTGraves 

You can help support this ministry with a donation to Miles Chapel CME Church.

You can help support Rev. Graves’ work by visiting his personal blog and clicking the DONATE button on the right-hand sidebar.

Support by check or money order may be mailed to 
Miles Chapel CME Church
P O Box 132
Fairfield, Al 35064


Sunday, December 7, 2014

WISDOM, JUSTICE, & THE SLAUGHTER OF INNOCENTS

The birth of Jesus is more than a pretty story for Christmas  time.  It is a prophetic guide to the missing element in our response to unfair pain and social injustice. 

Learn a new look at the Advent stories of the Wise Men, Joseph, and Herod in a message called: WISDOM, JUSTICE, & THE SLAUGHTER OF INNOCENTS. 

Listen well.
            

If you can’t get the audio on your device, visit the main podcast page at http://revandersongraves.podomatic.com/

---Anderson T. Graves II   is a writer, community organizer and consultant for education, ministry, and rural leadership development.

Rev. Anderson T. Graves II is pastor of Miles Chapel CME Church in Fairfield, Alabama;  executive director of the Substance Abuse Youth Networking Organization (SAYNO);  and director of rural leadership development for the National Institute for Human Development (NIHD).

Subscribe to my personal blog  www.andersontgraves.blogspot.com .

Email atgravestwo2@aol.com

You can help support this ministry with a donation to Miles Chapel CME Church.

You can help support Rev. Graves’ work by visiting his personal blog and clicking the DONATE button on the right-hand sidebar.

Support by check or money order may be mailed to 
Miles Chapel CME Church
P O Box 132
Fairfield, Al 35064



Tuesday, April 1, 2014

CHILD WORSHIP

Eli was high priest of Israel before Samuel.  Eli had two sons, but the sons of Eli were corrupt; they did not know the Lord. (1 Samuel 2: 12 )  Eli’s sons took advantage of the hereditary title of priest.  They were so corrupt that people thought, “If this is how men of God act, I don’t want anything to do with worship.”  And that made God MAD.

Therefore the sin of the young men was very great before the Lord, for men abhorred the offering of the Lord.  (1 Samuel 2: 17)

Eli heard everything his sons did to all Israel, and how they lay with the women who assembled at the door of the tabernacle of meeting (1 Samuel 2: 22)
But all Eli did was scold his sons a little.  He didn’t punish them.  He didn’t demand that they confess.  He didn’t take away their priestly duties or withdraw any of their privileges; even though Eli knew that his sons, priests, were actually causing more sin.

No, my sons! For it is not a good report that I hear. You make the Lord’s people transgress. (1 Samuel 2: 24)

The Lord sent an unnamed prophet to deliver a message to Eli.  The Lord said: Why do you kick at My sacrifice and My offering which I have commanded in My dwelling place, and honor your sons more than Me? (1 Samuel 2: 29)

Why do you honor your sons more than Me?

When you stop calling it wrong when you find out YOUR child does it, too; you honor your children more than God.

When you ignore the way the Bible tells you to raise your children because you don’t want to upset the child, never mind how it makes God feel; you honor your children more than God.

When you treat your child as infallible and incapable of any wrong and you rebuke everyone who tells you otherwise, regardless of evidence and logic and the fact that you've heard the same things from multiple teachers in every grade at different schools; then you have made your child a holy god in your eyes and you honor your child more than God.

And when you honor your child more than God, then God says:  Those who honor Me I will honor, and those who despise Me shall be lightly esteemed. (1 Samuel 2: 30)

When you honor your child more than God, then God says:

Generations of baby boys will die young.
I will cut off your arm and the arm of your father’s house, so that there will not be an old man in your house (1 Samuel 2: 31)

Kids from good homes, surrounded by “saved and sanctified” family, in a land full of opportunity will die young.
Despite all the good which God does for Israel, … there shall not be an old man in your house forever (1 Samuel 2: 32)

And the ones who live will disrespect you, shame you, and break your hearts.
Any of your men whom I do not cut off from My altar shall consume your eyes and grieve your heart  (1 Samuel 2: 33)

The tragedy will happen non-stop.
Your two sons, on Hophni and Phinehas: in one day they shall die, both of them (1 Samuel 2: 33)

And all the potential you saw in them, all the good you “claimed in the name of Jesus” for your own, will go to another.
I will raise up for Myself a faithful priest who shall do according to what is in My heart and in My mind  (1 Samuel 2: 35)

And your children and the children of your children will borrow and beg at the feet of others
Everyone who is left in your house will come and bow down to him for a piece of silver and a morsel of bread  (1 Samuel 2: 36)

All because you honor your sons more than God.

Think about it.  Think about it.

Of course you love them so much that you don’t want to deny them anything.  Of course you love them so much that you want to believe everything they say.

But do you love them more than that?  Do you love them enough to discipline them into morally strong men instead of morally empty boys?

Do you love them enough to make them be respectful to all adults because it’s right not because it’s earned so that they grow up knowing that right is not relative?

Do you love them enough to distrust them a little and check their stories before you act on them?

Do you love them enough to  repent of your sins and walk right before them so that they understand that even Daddy and Mama submit to God?

Do you love your children enough to place the love of God, His Word, and His ways above their wants and yours?

Do you love your children enough to honor God more than you honor them?

Well if you don’t, at least you know what to expect.

And the expectation isn't hypothetical. 

Eli continued indulging and enabling his sons for years.  But before his grandchild was born, Eli lost both sons and the ark of the covenant that had been the great charge of his ministry.  After 40 years of ministry, Eli passed out, broke his neck, and died knowing that he’d lost everything he’d been trying to hold onto (1 Samuel 4: 1-18).

And the legacy of Eli’s cursed parenting did not end with his sons. The curse passed to another generation, a generation led by a single mother filled with bitterness over the failings of the men in her family.  With her dying breath, Eli’s daughter-in-law poured that bitterness out on her son.

Phinehas’ wife, was with child, due to be delivered; and when she heard the news that the ark of God was captured, and that her father-in-law and her husband were dead, she bowed herself and gave birth, for her labor pains came upon her.  And about the time of her death the women who stood by her said to her, “Do not fear, for you have borne a son.”
But she did not answer, nor did she regard it.
Then she named the child Ichabod, saying, “The glory has departed from Israel!” (1 Samuel 4: 19 )

We see this curse at work all around us.  The death, the immorality, the epidemic of shameless failure--- they aren’t coincidences.  They’re consequences.

The consequences of honoring our children more than we honor God.

---Anderson T. Graves II   is a writer, community organizer and consultant for education, ministry, and rural leadership development.

Rev. Anderson T. Graves II is pastor of Hall Memorial CME Church in Montgomery, Alabama, executive director of the Substance Abuse Youth Networking Organization (SAYNO) and director of rural leadership development for the National Institute for Human Development (NIHD).

Email atgravestwo2@aol.com
To hear sermons, read devotions, and learn more about the ministry at Hall Memorial CME Church, visit www.hallmemorialcme.blogspot.com .
You can read more on Pastor Graves's personal blog at www.andersontgraves.blogspot.com  .

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