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Thursday, April 19, 2018

DON'T DIE ANGRY, a lesson from the death of Jacob


Blogging Genesis 48-50


Then Israel charged his sons and said to them: “I am to be gathered to my people; bury me with my fathers in the cave that is in the field of Ephron the Hittite. . .  There they buried Abraham and Sarah his wife, there they buried Isaac and Rebekah his wife, and there I buried Leah. . .  And when Jacob had finished commanding his sons, he drew his feet up into the bed and breathed his last, and was gathered to his people (Genesis 49: 29 - 33).

In his letter to the early church in Ephesus, Paul explained how to live as a good Christian in a world and in a church where other people don’t always live like good Christians.  Drawing on Old Testament advice from Psalms 4:4, the apostle said, “Be angry, and do not sin”: do not let the sun go down on your wrath (Ephesians 4: 26).

As a pastor who’s performed, it seems like, a LOT of funerals I’ve noticed a trend in obituaries where instead of “birth – death” the program will say “sunrise – sunset.”  The image of death as a sunset is beautiful and perhaps comforting but combined with Paul’s advice it’s also challenging.  

Challenging because a fair number of Christians enter the sunset of their lives as Jacob, aka Israel did.  It isn’t a state that negates one’s salvation, but it is a state that can have far-reaching negative consequences.  So, please don’t go out like Jacob did.

Jacob died angry.

And he died often.  Jacob was like that old auntie who sends for the whole family in June because the Lord is calling her home and she gets out of the hospital 2 days later; then she calls the whole family to her bedside in October because the Lord is calling her home and she gets out of the hospital that afternoon; and next August she sends a message that can you fly in because she wants to see you one last time before the Lord calls her home and when you get to the hospital they’ve already discharged her, etc., etc.

Jacob was at death’s door when he first thought that Joseph had been killed
And all his sons and all his daughters arose to comfort him; but he refused to be comforted, and he said, “For I shall go down into the grave to my son in mourning.” Thus his father wept for him (Genesis 37:35).

And, when he reunited with Joseph.
And Israel said to Joseph, “Now let me die, since I have seen your face, because you are still alive” (Genesis 46:30).

And, when he called in Joseph to explain his wishes for his funeral.
When the time drew near that Israel must die, he called his son Joseph and said to him. . . Please do not bury me in Egypt, but let me lie with my fathers; you shall carry me out of Egypt and bury me in their burial place” (Genesis 47:29-30).

And, when he amended his will to include two of his grandsons.
Now it came to pass after these things that Joseph was told, “Indeed your father is sick”; and he took with him his two sons, Manasseh and Ephraim (Genesis 48:1).

But when the Lord did actually, finally call Jacob home, Israel went out in a blaze of bitterness. 

First of all, he made Joseph’s sons joint-heirs with their uncles.
And now your two sons, Ephraim and Manasseh, who were born to you in the land of Egypt before I came to you in Egypt, are mine; as Reuben and Simeon, they shall be mine. Your offspring whom you beget after them shall be yours; they will be called by the name of their brothers in their inheritance (Genesis 48:5-6).

The firstborn son is assigned the double inheritance. So basically, on his deathbed, Jacob-Israel told his 10 oldest sons “I never really liked ya’ll anyway.  As far as I’m concerned, Joseph is my firstborn.”

To Jacob’s credit, he didn’t publicly call out his sons for selling Joseph into slavery.   Joseph had forgiven them and Jacob apparently let that go, too.  But, Jacob did use his dying breaths to go all the way back to the oldest of old offenses that his eldest 3 sons had every committed. 

In his last words, Father Jacob cursed his eldest children.

Reuben, you are my firstborn, my might and the beginning of my strength, the excellency of dignity and the excellency of power.   Unstable as water, you shall not excel, because you went up to your father’s bed; then you defiled it.  He went up to my couch.
 Simeon and Levi are brothers; instruments of cruelty are in their dwelling place. Let not my soul enter their council; let not my honor be united to their assembly;  for in their anger they slew a man, And in their self-will they hamstrung an ox.  Cursed be their anger, for it is fierce; And their wrath, for it is cruel! I will divide them in Jacob and scatter them in Israel” (Genesis 49:3-7).

Jacob dumped that on his sons and their descendants inherited the emotional baggage of their grandfather’s curse.

Imagine being a Reubenite, Simeonite, or Levite (like Moses) for the next 500-plus years.  Imagine that every time you heard or spoke the name of your nation you remembered that the father of your nation cursed your community ---- with his dying breath.

(Cough . . . cough. George Washington was a slaveowner until the day he died and Thomas “all men are created equal” Jefferson’s will only emancipated 5 of his dozens of slaves and those 5 did not include Sally Hemmings the slave by whom the married Jefferson had at least 6 children . . . cough . . . cough)

That’s a lot of emotional baggage to pass down through the generations. 

You might even expect some of those the descendants to carry some latent rage. 

And a man of the house of Levi went and took as wife a daughter of Levi. So the woman conceived and bore a son. . . And when she saw that he was a beautiful child, she hid him three months. But when she could no longer hide him, she took an ark of bulrushes for him, daubed it with asphalt and pitch, put the child in it, and laid it in the reeds by the river’s bank. . . And the child grew, and she brought him to Pharaoh’s daughter, and he became her son. So she called his name Moses. . . when Moses was grown. . .  he saw an Egyptian beating a Hebrew, one of his brethren. So he looked this way and that way, and when he saw no one, he killed the Egyptian and hid him in the sand (Exodus 2:1-12).

You might expect some of those descendants to carry some self-hate. 
Now Korah the son of Izhar, the son of Kohath, the son of Levi, with Dathan and Abiram the sons of Eliab, and On the son of Peleth, sons of Reuben, took men;  and they rose up before Moses with some of the children of Israel, two hundred and fifty leaders of the congregation, representatives of the congregation, men of renown. They gathered together against Moses and Aaron (Numbers 16:1-3).

Jacob was an important man whose words of blessing and words of cursing had profound consequences.  But Jacob was just a man.  

No man’s words to you or about you is the final say, not even if they’re your father’s final words, not even if the words are a prophetic declaration. 

God alone has the last say about you and your destiny. 

The descendants of Levi were divided among and scattered across the tribes of Israel, but not as nomads or vagabonds.  God made the Levites the tribe of priests and judges.  Jacob said:  let not my honor be united to their assembly.  God overruled Jacob and gave Levi the united honor of all Israel.

Daddy or granddaddy or founding fathers declare their opinion, preference, and predictions about who you and your people are and can be.   But you don’t have to conform to that.  Those historic men were important, but those men aren’t God.  Prove them wrong.  Succeed anyway. 


Jacob-Israel installed Joseph as his firstborn, intending for descendants of his 11th son to rule over all the others.  But Judah and his descendants didn’t care. 

Now the sons of Reuben the firstborn of Israel—he was indeed the firstborn, but because he defiled his father’s bed, his birthright was given to the sons of Joseph, the son of Israel, so that the genealogy is not listed according to the birthright; yet Judah prevailed over his brothers, and from him came a ruler, although the birthright was Joseph’s (1 Chronicles 5:1-2).



Israel died old-man angry and bestowed an unnecessarily painful legacy on a segment of his population.  Don’t die angry.  Don’t let the sun set on bitter words that God has to spend generations undoing. 

And if you are living in the shadow of an angry parents’ death ----- defy them.  

Succeed anyway.  Define your legacy for yourself.  Prevail.

The Levites defied Father Israel’s curse and gave us the Moses, the Law, and the sacrifices that laid the foundation for the gospel.   The sons of Judah defied Father Israel’s expectations, defined their own legacy, and gave us kings and psalmists and books of wisdom and the Bible’s dirty love Song ---- and Jesus.

Don’t let an angry sunset determine the rest of your days.


--Anderson T. Graves II   is a writer, community organizer and consultant for education, ministry, and rural leadership development.

Rev. Anderson T. Graves II is pastor of Miles Chapel CME Church in Fairfield, Alabama. He writes a blog called A Word to the Wise at www.andersontgraves.blogspot.com

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