Proverbs
31: 26 She opens her mouth
with wisdom, And on her tongue is
the law of kindness.
Proverbs 31: 26.
The ideal woman, the kind who’d make a great queen, knows what to say
and exactly how to say it. She is not
the airhead laughing mindlessly and
loudly all the guys’ jokes while squeezing her shoulders together so they can
see her cleavage. The future queen is
too wise for that. She understands that
if she presents herself like a fool that any man can have then men will treat
her like a fool that any man can have.
The future queen, wherever she is, whomever she is,
speaks with wisdom and kindness. And
she isn’t nice according to class, or ethnicity, or economic status, or how
closely the other people match her concept of physical beauty. She is kind according to the law of God.
Because God said so, she loves and speaks kindly to her
neighbor---- her rich neighbor, her poor neighbor, her Christian neighbor, her you-believe-what
neighbor, her same-race-as-me neighbor, her not-my-same-skin-tone neighbor, her
looks-like-they-got-it-all-together neighbor, her everything’s-falling-apart
neighbor, etc., etc.
She’s not nice because she’s weak. She isn’t kind because she’s “fake.” (“Fake” is such a hellishly stupid
concept. Like somehow it’s more genuine
to be a gossiping jerk than to be freakin’ polite and professional.) The woman who will be queen is not polite
because she wants something from you.
She is kind because that’s how the Bible, the law of God, teaches her to
be. (Ephesians
4: 29-32; Luke
10: 29-37)
The same speaker who described the virtuous woman
also advised the reigning king:
Open your mouth for the speechless,
In the cause of all who are appointed to die.
Open your mouth, judge righteously,
And plead the cause of the poor and needy. ( Proverbs 31: 8, 9)
A Proverbs 31: 26 woman speaks kindly and wisely
because that is what good kings do, and she is a match for a king.
In the South, we have a word for a such a woman. We call her a “gracious lady.” It’s the way we describe the wives of
governors and presidents, and the matriarchs of great families. It’s
what we expect of our queens.
Speak to people as a gracious lady. It’s what God expects of His queens.
Walk
in wisdom toward those who are outside, redeeming the time. Let your speech always be with grace, seasoned with
salt, that you may know how you ought to answer each one. (Colossians 4: 5, 6)
---Anderson
T. Graves II is a writer, community organizer and
consultant for education, ministry, and rural leadership development.
Rev. Anderson T. Graves II is pastor of Hall Memorial CME Church in Montgomery, Alabama, executive director of the Substance Abuse Youth
Networking Organization (SAYNO) and director of rural leadership
development for the National Institute for Human Development (NIHD).
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