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Monday, March 30, 2015

EPITAPH or EPITHET


When I was an English teacher I pushed my adolescent writers to expand their vocabularies, but sometimes, while trying to impress me, my students would stretch their word choices beyond their grasp of definitions.   They’d use big words, but the wrong big words.

For example, sometimes students would confuse the words epithet and epitaph.

An epitaph is “something written or said in memory of a dead person; especially : words written on a gravestone.” (Merriam Webster online)

An epithet is a word or phrase, often “an offensive word or name that is used as a way of abusing or insulting someone” (Merriam Webster online), as in “a racial epithet.”

In the Bible, when a prominent character died, Scripture often gave a one verse summary of his/her life --- an epitaph.  Epitaph not epithet.

But then, there was King Jehoram of Jerusalem.  The summary of his life is in 2 Chronicles 21:20.

He was thirty-two years old when he became king. He reigned in Jerusalem eight years and, to no one’s sorrow, departed.

The King James Version says that Jehoram died without being desired.  That English phrase is a single Hebrew word.

Jehoram’s epitaph is kind of an epithet.

How sad.

Remember that other people will bury you.  Someone else will decide what your tombstone says.  Even if you have the stone carved while you’re living, someone else will still decide.

How sad it would be for you or I to attain great titles, to gain positions of power and personal prosperity, and then die “to no one’s sorrow.”  To be remembered as an epithet.

Live daily the verse you want carved on your grave.  Be now the person you want preached in your eulogy.

By your actions, choose an epitaph that is not an epithet.

Rev. Anderson T. Graves II is pastor of Miles Chapel CME Church in Fairfield, Alabama;  executive director of the Substance Abuse Youth Networking Organization (SAYNO);  and director of rural leadership development for the National Institute for Human Development (NIHD).

Subscribe to my personal blog  www.andersontgraves.blogspot.com .

Email atgravestwo2@aol.com
Follow me on twitter @AndersonTGraves 

You can help support this ministry with a donation to Miles Chapel CME Church.

You can help support Rev. Graves’ work by visiting his personal blog and clicking the DONATE button on the right-hand sidebar.

Support by check or money order may be mailed to 
Miles Chapel CME Church
P O Box 132

Fairfield, Al 35064

WHY ARE YOU OUT ON (PALM) SUNDAY?

They say that, “Everybody loves a parade.”  Maybe so, but not everybody goes to the parade for the same reasons.  Palm Sunday celebrates the day Jesus triumphantly paraded into Jerusalem.  He was surrounded by a crowd, but not everyone came out that Sunday for the same reasons.   And, if the truth were told, not everybody comes out to church on Sunday for the same reasons.

Follow Pastor Graves along the parade route with Jesus on Palm Sunday and learn what that crowd can teach about us our congregations and the truth behind our individual reasons for being part of it.  The message asks WHY ARE YOU OUT ON (PALM) SUNDAY?


Listen well.

If you can’t get the audio on your device, visit the main podcast page at http://revandersongraves.podomatic.com/

---Anderson T. Graves II   is a writer, community organizer and consultant for education, ministry, and rural leadership development.

Rev. Anderson T. Graves II is pastor of Miles Chapel CME Church in Fairfield, Alabama;  executive director of the Substance Abuse Youth Networking Organization (SAYNO);  and director of rural leadership development for the National Institute for Human Development (NIHD).

Subscribe to my personal blog  www.andersontgraves.blogspot.com .

Email atgravestwo2@aol.com
Follow me on twitter @AndersonTGraves  #Awordtothewise 

You can help support this ministry with a donation to Miles Chapel CME Church.

You can help support Rev. Graves’ work by visiting his personal blog and clicking the DONATE button on the right-hand sidebar.

Support by check or money order may be mailed to 
Miles Chapel CME Church
P O Box 132
Fairfield, Al 35064


Wednesday, March 25, 2015

WHY THE HOLY SPIRIT GOT YOU TRIPPIN'

Sheila and I were at a conference-style church gathering, and we were playing, “Who’s that preacher?”

“That’s Rev. So-and-so, and that’s his wife over there.”

“Wait.  That’s his WIFE?”

“Yeah.”

“Hmmph.  Well, they sure don’t act married.”

We went to my mother-in-law’s house one day, and Sheila walked up the driveway ahead of me.  As I came around the front of my truck I saw the summer sun glinting off her legs and flaming that natural reddish tint at the edges of her black-brown hair as she slow motion strided up the walkway.

I thought, “She’s so fine.  Man, I wanna…” And I almost broke my leg because I walked into a 4 foot tall pile of bright white rocks piled in the middle of the driveway right in front of me.

Rev. So-and-so didn’t seem moved at all by the presence of his wife in the room.   I was so overwhelmed by the experience of my wife’s presence that my peripheral vision shut down.  But both of us are EQUALLY  married.

I don’t always trip when Sheila’s around.  Sometimes I just go on about what ever business I’m handling, but even then I'm still married. Neither my nor Rev. So-and-so’s experience in our wives’ presence change the nature or our relationships.  We’re still married.   

It’s the same way with the Holy Ghost.  

The Bible distinguishes between our RELATIONSHIP with the Holy Spirit and our EXPERIENCE of the Holy Spirit through prepositions typically translated With, Upon & In.
-          WITH refers to the presence.
-          UPON depicts an experience.
-          IN means the relationship.

WITH refers to the presence of the Holy Spirit.
At the Last Supper before His Crucifxion, Jesus said: And I will pray the Father, and He will give you another Helper, that He may abide with you forever— the Spirit of truth, whom the world cannot receive, because it neither sees Him nor knows Him; but you know Him, for He dwells with you and will be in you. (John 14: 16-17)

Jesus said that the Holy Spirit already dwells WITH YOU. Before Pentecost, before the Ascension, before the Resurrection or the Crucifixion, the Holy Spirit was already present in the world near and WITH the disciples.  During the previous 3 ½ years of ministry, the Holy Spirit who had hovered over the face of the waters at Creation had moved alongside the disciples, empowering them to heal the sick, cast out demons, and preach the gospel even when they were far from Jesus’ physical presence.  (Luke 10: 1-17)

Even someone who isn’t saved can sometimes sense the presence of God near/ WITH them. It is the PRESENCE of the Holy Spirit prodding the sinner that leads an unbeliever to give his/her life to Jesus Christ.

UPON refers to the experience of the Holy Spirit
Samson’s became super strong in the face of Philistine aggression when the Holy Spirit came UPON him (Judges 14: 6, 19).  Old Testament prophets spoke truth beyond their knowledge when the Spirit came UPON them (2Chronicles 15: 1; 24: 20).  UPON was the experience that Elisha sought through his mentor Elijah (2 Kings 2:9).  

Sometimes the spirit would even come UPON someone who wasn’t in right relationship with God.  In 1 Samuel 16: 14, God withdrew His favor and the Holy Spirit from King Saul.  The king descended into murderous, paranoid, and self-destructive jealousy of David; but in 1 Samuel 19: 23-24 the Holy Spirit came UPON Saul so powerfully that he prophesied instead of killing David.  Saul woke up naked, and I’m sure his first thought was, “Man, I’m trippin’” (translated from the original Hebrew).

In the New Testament, on the day Jesus ascended to Heaven, He promised that you shall receive power when the Holy Spirit has come UPON you… (Acts 1: 8)

That promised was fulfilled on the Day of Pentecost (Acts 2) when the disciples had a profound, miraculous, publicly verifiable EXPERIENCE of the Holy Ghost. 

When people sincerely get caught up in worship and shout, or weep, or run, or dance, or speak in tongues, or pass out, or in other ways start trippin’; they are having a Spiritual experience.  That’s wonderful.  But ultimately God calls us beyond presence and experience to RELATIONSHIP with the Holy Ghost. 

IN means relationship
— the Spirit of truth, whom the world cannot receive, because it neither sees Him nor knows Him; but you know Him, for He dwells with you and will be in you. (John 14: 16-17)

About 50 days before the Pentecost experience, on the  evening of Resurrection Sunday the disciples were hiding out from the Jewish leaders.  Jesus appeared, verified His identity, and when He had said this, He breathed on them, and said to them, “Receive the Holy Spirit. (John 20: 22)

Whomever is saved by faith in Christ already and automatically receives the Holy Ghost to dwell in their hearts.  Before Pentecost, before they spoke in tongues, the disciples were saved. Their relationship was not dependent upon their experience.

Now He who establishes us with you in Christ and has anointed us is God, who also has sealed us and given us the Spirit in our hearts as a guarantee. (2 Corinthians 1: 21-22)


The indwelling of the Spirit,  not the visible outpouring of an experience, is the mark and seal of salvation. ANYONE can have the experience.  Once, God made a donkey speak in an unusual tongue (Numbers 22). 

That said, genuinely being in relationship with the Holy Spirit of God will make you trip, but maybe not the way you expect.  Maybe you shout out during worship, and maybe you just spend years in the Amazon sharing the gospel with a tribe of cannibals.

Maybe you run up and down the aisle during a piano riff, and maybe you just take in troubled foster kids alongside your biological children and love them all the same.

Maybe you trip over the Holy Spirit by passing out when the preacher touches your forehead, but maybe you just move your family out of your gated community to live in the most crime-ridden neighborhood in your city because the Holy Spirit told you to go and love those neighbors as you love yourself.

Rev So-and-so didn’t stumble one time as far as I could see, but he and his wife had been together almost as long as my wife and I have been alive.  Their relationship defines their experience not the other way around.  And clearly they gotta be pretty happy with the experience.

When Sheila and I were dating, I sometimes tripped over her.  (Literally, I’d be looking at her and not watching where I was walking, and the sidewalks on campus weren’t always even.)   But our love deserved more than me trippin’.  The highest expression of my love was a commitment, the surrender of my personal plans to OUR destiny as a couple, as a family, as one.   

He who is joined to the Lord is one spirit with Him. (1 Corinthians 6: 17)

Now I have her presence, the experience of her presence, and the till-death-do-us-part security of our relationship. 

That is what God offers us in the Holy Spirit.

Don’t settle for less. 

Rev. Anderson T. Graves II is pastor of Miles Chapel CME Church in Fairfield, Alabama;  executive director of the Substance Abuse Youth Networking Organization (SAYNO);  and director of rural leadership development for the National Institute for Human Development (NIHD).

Subscribe to my personal blog  www.andersontgraves.blogspot.com .

Email atgravestwo2@aol.com
Follow me on twitter @AndersonTGraves 

You can help support this ministry with a donation to Miles Chapel CME Church.

You can help support Rev. Graves’ work by visiting his personal blog and clicking the DONATE button on the right-hand sidebar.

Support by check or money order may be mailed to 
Miles Chapel CME Church
P O Box 132
Fairfield, Al 35064



Sunday, March 22, 2015

THE GREEKS, THE JEWS, AND THE COUNTRY BOY (audio of sermon)

Why does God ignore you when you ask Him a question?  Why does it sometimes seem like God is answering every prayers except the one you prayed?  Like the Lord is working every miracle except the one you’ve asked for?

The answer is important and not all that complicated. There is an answer, but first I have ta tell ya' a story.about THE GREEKS, THE JEWS, AND THE COUNTRY BOY.


Listen well.

If you can’t get the audio on your device, visit the main podcast page at http://revandersongraves.podomatic.com/

---Anderson T. Graves II   is a writer, community organizer and consultant for education, ministry, and rural leadership development.

Rev. Anderson T. Graves II is pastor of Miles Chapel CME Church in Fairfield, Alabama;  executive director of the Substance Abuse Youth Networking Organization (SAYNO);  and director of rural leadership development for the National Institute for Human Development (NIHD).

Subscribe to my personal blog  www.andersontgraves.blogspot.com .

Email atgravestwo2@aol.com
Follow me on twitter @AndersonTGraves  #Awordtothewise 

You can help support this ministry with a donation to Miles Chapel CME Church.

You can help support Rev. Graves’ work by visiting his personal blog and clicking the DONATE button on the right-hand sidebar.

Support by check or money order may be mailed to 
Miles Chapel CME Church
P O Box 132
Fairfield, Al 35064


Friday, March 20, 2015

HOW WINNERS LOSE




In the final two chapters of the book of Judges, Israel was divided into 2 warring factions.  There was an eleven tribe super-majority of “Israel” against the one-tribe minority of Benjamin.  In chapter 20, “Israel” went to war against the Israelites in the tribe of Benjamin.

The majority party represented the country and used its power to attack the minority party as though they weren’t citizens of the same country.  But, to be clear, the grounds for the attack were absolutely correct.  

(The reason was a horrific crime and a miscarriage of criminal justice. I wrote about it in a post called  “The Ugliest Chapters.”)

Before God let Israel win on the 3rd day, He  sent them into two days of battle where Israel was slaughtered by the Benjamite minority.    Losses were heavy on both sides, kinda like the Lord was punishing both parties.

Israel ultimately won and in Judges 20:36-39, the national government punished the criminals who had escaped local justice.  But they didn’t stop there. 

The men of Israel turned back against the children of Benjamin, and struck them down with the edge of the sword—from every city, men and beasts, all who were found. They also set fire to all the cities they came to. (Judges 20: 48)

Israel also swore an oath (signed a pledge) that “None of us shall give his daughter to Benjamin as a wife.” ( Judges 21: 1) 

With only about 600 Benjamite men surviving the incursion, this pledge amounted to genocide. 

See?  The ruling faction didn’t just deal with the issue; they set about to destroy everything and everybody associated with their opponents in the minority.

Sometimes the Republicans are the majority and the Democrats are Benjamin.  Sometimes, it’s the other way around.   Sometimes the old heads outnumber young adults 11-1.  Sometimes the younger perspective has a super-majority of support.

But when any human coalition comes into power in anger, Scripture and history teach us that no matter who the humans are, they tend to take their “mandate” too, too far.

You can win the war and lose your souls.


Here’s how you know that your group has crossed the line.  4 points. 
#1) You regret your own policies--- in secret.

God’s Law was careful, explicit, and emphatic about preserving both the national and tribal integrity of Israel.  There was a whole system of redemption and return to insure that no tribe would ever be without land.   

They [Israel] lifted up their voices and wept bitterly, and said, “O Lord God of Israel, why has this come to pass in Israel, that today there should be one tribe missing in Israel?” (Judges 21: 2-3)

#2) You have defeated the enemy but become the bad guys when you turn on  your own people when their morality contrasts your mistakes.   
 















Israel  made a great oath concerning anyone who had not come up to the Lord at Mizpah [against Benjamin], saying, “He shall surely be put to death.” (Judges 21: 5)

One clan had not participated in the slaughter of their countrymen, and for that offense, Israel attacked Jabesh Gilead. (Judges 21: 8-11)

#3) Your side has gone from victors to villains when you break your own rules trying to secretly sabotage a platform you publicly support.

Having signed a pledge committing themselves to never intermarry with the Benjamites, Israel arranged for the Benjamites to kidnap young women from the majority tribes while they looked the other way  (Judges 21: 12-24).


#4) Your victorious faction that has lost its corporate soul when you start blaming God for the consequences of you disobeying God.   


And the people grieved for Benjamin, because the Lord had made a void in the tribes of Israel. (Judges 21: 15)

Wait.  Who voided one of the tribes?   

Killing off ALL of Benjamin and preventing the survivors from reproducing was not God’s idea.

The Word of God commands us to hold criminals and corrupt officials accountable. But God does not give us license to target an entire community or an entire class of officials.

You don’t get to kill Black people just because they’re Black or police officers just because they’re police officers and then blame the ensuing chaos on God.

You don’t get to murder homosexuals just for being gay or discredit pastors just for believing what the Bible says about homosexuality and say that it’s what Jesus wants.

Well you can, because like the Jews in the time of Judges, we live in a culture where there is no king and everyone does what was right in his own eyes. (Judges 21: 25)

But if we let our power overrun God’s commands, we clear a path for everyone’s destruction. 

As I said in an earlier blog, the book of Judges is written out of chronological order.  The final chapters actually happened first.   In the rest of the book of Judges, the Jewish nation, Benjamin and all, spend the next few centuries in serial subjugation.   

Their Promised Land became an oppressed land because they did what we are doing.

1)      We come to power in anger and make rules that we regret.
2)      We attack our own people when they refuse to follow us into sin.
3)      We make unethical backroom deals with our opponents while we publicly pretend to support the official platform.
4)      And we blame God for all the chaos we create. 

This is how a victorious nation becomes a culture of losers. 

Consider it, take counsel, and speak. (Judges 19: 30)

Rev. Anderson T. Graves II is pastor of Miles Chapel CME Church in Fairfield, Alabama;  executive director of the Substance Abuse Youth Networking Organization (SAYNO);  and director of rural leadership development for the National Institute for Human Development (NIHD).

Subscribe to my personal blog  www.andersontgraves.blogspot.com .

Email atgravestwo2@aol.com
Follow me on twitter @AndersonTGraves 

You can help support this ministry with a donation to Miles Chapel CME Church.

You can help support Rev. Graves’ work by visiting his personal blog and clicking the DONATE button on the right-hand sidebar.

Support by check or money order may be mailed to 
Miles Chapel CME Church
P O Box 132

Fairfield, Al 35064

Wednesday, March 18, 2015

LOVE OR FEAR?


There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear, because fear involves torment. But he who fears has not been made perfect in love
. (1 John 4: 18)

Fear involves torment.  The NIV and RSV use the word punishment.  Fear makes you think, “They scare me. How do I hurt them?”  Love has the opposite of effect.  Love makes you think, “They’re my neighbor.  How do I help?”  The two mindsets are mutually exclusive.

Jesus commands us to love our neighbors (Matthew 22: 39; Leviticus 19: 18).  You can’t do that if you’re scared of your neighbors.

Jesus also commands us to love our enemies (Matthew 5: 43, 44).  So even if you see a certain person or a certain group as a threat, as an enemy, you still have to love them.  And if your first impulse in interactions is to reach for your gun, you’re not loving; you’re scared.

There is no fear in love.


Last summer in Dallas, Jason Harris’s mother called police to help her take her schizophrenic, bipolar son to the mental hospital.  When the police arrived, she immediately told the two officers on the scene that her son was bipolar and schizophrenic.  Jason stood in the doorway behind her with a screwdriver in his hand.

As he stepped off the stoop one of the officers shot him repeatedly. The officer stated that he feared for his life. 

I believe him.

I believe that the officer who killed the mentally ill man he’d been called to help genuinely feared for his own life.

But the officer wasn’t supposed to fear Jason.  The officer was supposed to LOVE Jason.

Had the officer loved the man he’d been called to help he would have talked without drawing his gun.  Had the officer loved the sick man whose mother had asked them to help her get to the hospital, he might have reached for the taser on his left side rather than the gloc on his right.  Had the officer felt love he might have reluctantly used his professional training or the two-officers-to-one advantage to wrestle Jason to the ground and take away the screwdriver.

Had the officer loved instead of feared he would have looked at Jason Harris and seen a man who needed help coming out of his own house with a screwdriver, not a crazed attacker confronting him with a shank.

Perfect love casts out fear, because fear involves punishment.

A few years ago, when George Zimmerman fired his gun into the chest of Trayvon Martin, the teenager he’d profiled, pursued, and assaulted, Mr. Zimmerman said that he’d feared for his life.

I believe him.

I believe that when the teen he outweighed by 50% got the better of him and started raining punches down on his head pressed against the sidewalk that Mr. Zimmerman got really scared.

But George Zimmerman was never supposed to fear Trayvon Martin.  He was supposed to LOVE him.

Had he loved the young man walking along the public sidewalk not trespassing on anyone’s property, he wouldn’t have pursued him against police directions.  Had Mr. Zimmerman loved the young man he didn’t know, he might have offered a friendly greeting from his stoop and tried to have a conversation instead jumping out of his car, armed and screaming accusations.

Had George Zimmerman loved Trayvon Martin, he would have seen a child on the sidewalk, not a criminal f****r who gets away with everything and needed to be punished.

Perfect love casts out fear, because fear involves punishment.

“I feared for my life.”

Think about that justification.

They weren’t hurting me.  They weren’t trying to hurt me.  They weren’t even threatening to hurt me.  But they scared me so I killed them.

And we say that’s O.K.

We say it’s O.K. to take the life of your neighbor because he/ she scared you.

They don’t even have to be objectively scary.   You just have to FEEL afraid at that moment.


Think about that.

We have given the power of life and death to fearful people.

We have made fear the ultimate standard for how we relate to our neighbors.  Fear, not love.

That’s legal, but is it right?  Is it godly?  Can we Christians continue to support a legal standard based on fearing our neighbors?

Scripture commands us to fear nobody, except God.

Jesus said, “And I say to you, My friends, do not be afraid of those who kill the body, and after that have no more that they can do. But I will show you whom you should fear: Fear Him who, after He has killed, has power to cast into hell; yes, I say to you, fear Him! (Luke 12: 4-5)

We’re supposed to love our neighbors without fear. We’re supposed to fear God with love.

We do that exactly backwards. 

This is a note to the church, to the followers of Jesus Christ, to the people who for all our social and political differences hold common reverence for the Word of God in Scripture: 

I’m not saying beat your pistols into plowshares.  I support the right to self-defense up to and including the use of lethal force, but when we measure the exercise of that right we have to stop using the legal standard.  The current legal standard is FEAR.  We are called to  a higher standard.

You shall LOVE your neighbor as yourself.

There is no fear in love.

---Anderson T. Graves II   is a writer, community organizer and consultant for education, ministry, and rural leadership development.

Rev. Anderson T. Graves II is pastor of Miles Chapel CME Church in Fairfield, Alabama;  executive director of the Substance Abuse Youth Networking Organization (SAYNO);  and director of rural leadership development for the National Institute for Human Development (NIHD).

Subscribe to my personal blog  www.andersontgraves.blogspot.com .

Email atgravestwo2@aol.com
Follow me on twitter @AndersonTGraves 

You can help support this ministry with a donation to Miles Chapel CME Church.

You can help support Rev. Graves’ work by visiting his personal blog and clicking the DONATE button on the right-hand sidebar.

Support by check or money order may be mailed to 
Miles Chapel CME Church
P O Box 132

Fairfield, Al 35064

Sunday, March 15, 2015

WHAT GOOD DO YOU DO? (audio of sermon)

Imagine a shiny new car with custom everything sitting in your driveway, shining in the sun with no gas and no engine.  What good does it do?

Sometimes you may feel as useless as a shiny car with no engine; like your actions, your life don’t really make a difference in this big world.  You may have found yourself wondering, “What good do I do?”

Maybe more than you ever imagined.

This message was originally delivered for a celebration of church ushers.  The sermon is titled WHAT GOOD DO YOU DO?


Listen well.

If you can’t get the audio on your device, visit the main podcast page at http://revandersongraves.podomatic.com/

---Anderson T. Graves II   is a writer, community organizer and consultant for education, ministry, and rural leadership development.

Rev. Anderson T. Graves II is pastor of Miles Chapel CME Church in Fairfield, Alabama;  executive director of the Substance Abuse Youth Networking Organization (SAYNO);  and director of rural leadership development for the National Institute for Human Development (NIHD).

Subscribe to my personal blog  www.andersontgraves.blogspot.com .

Email atgravestwo2@aol.com
Follow me on twitter @AndersonTGraves  #Awordtothewise 

You can help support this ministry with a donation to Miles Chapel CME Church.

You can help support Rev. Graves’ work by visiting his personal blog and clicking the DONATE button on the right-hand sidebar.

Support by check or money order may be mailed to 
Miles Chapel CME Church
P O Box 132
Fairfield, Al 35064